The Art of Being Interested in Others

Saturday, May 10


My Dad is fascinated by other peoples life stories. He is genuinely interested in people's backgrounds, current life situation and their future plans and dreams.

I remember once, a family friend had been seeing his girlfriend for a few months and he bought her out to our farm for the weekend. My Dad naturally asked her a lot about herself over the course of the weekend, and I remember our family friend saying afterwards that he had learnt more about her through my Dad's questions that weekend than he had learnt in their relationship that far.

My Mum is also very interested in how other people are doing and often asks me how friends of mine are doing that she has never even met!

I don't think that I've ever appreciated what an incredible personality trait this is until recently.

I had a long chat to my friend Leigh about this a few weeks ago in South Africa, and I've become so much aware of this since then.

I caught up with two of my favourite girlfriends Sam and Cath this afternoon, and this subject came up again.

How often do you see someone and afterwards you realise that you have spent the entire conversation talking about them?

And how often are the catch ups that you most enjoy - with people that are genuinely interested in how you are doing?

I suppose we are all naturally a little self obsessed and eager to talk about ourselves, which is why we talk about ourselves spontaneously and also crave to be asked?

Maybe this is why some of my patients like to have more sessions with me than they really need because in the Physio-Patient relationship I am naturally the asker and they the answerer?

I also find that in my life, my friends and family that are most happy and peaceful within themselves are also the most likely to make an effort to ask how I am doing.

And so my life tip today - is 2 fold:

1. Ask others how they are doing before you talk about yourself.

2. Surround yourself with people who are already following tip number 1.

What are your thoughts on this?


  1. I love this. It's very true. I try to always listen to people and to hear what they have to say, not just wait for my turn to talk.
    Lovely post

  2. Tip number 2 is perfect! I have an amazing friend, Antonia, who makes you feel so special when she talks to you because not only does she act interested in you, but you really feel like she is - my mum always comments on how charming and thoughtful she is.

    1. Antonia sounds fabulous! x

  3. Suck a lovely post! It's really great when you find a friend that has that perfect balance between talking and listening :)

  4. Such a lovely post and so true. Great tips too. I have been trying recently to ask about other people and find out about their lives. However, they keep changing it back to me. I'm like "please just talk about YOU!!" It sure takes some skill
    Thank you for sharing this post xx


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